Okay, so this weekend we made a trip to attend my sister in laws wedding. Wendy who has just turned forty finally married the man wh has been living with for the last four years. Now I know that a wedding is supposed to be a happy occassion, however, my mother in law is not doing well. We don't come to visit very often because my mother in law is a game player and a manipulator, and can be extremely difficult to deal with. It seems like perhaps she is suffering from dementia or alzheimers or something. I am not really sure. All I can say for sure is that she is driving my poor sister in laws batty.
They have always been an extremely co dependent family. Which is quite honestly why we don't live too close to them. My mother in law, always known for turning the tables on people is driving my sister in laws nuts. Everything she is doing, they can't figure out if it is a game, or if she is truly losing her mind. My sister in law Cindy, confided in me yesterday, that she is really angry with her mother because it seems as if she is constantly manipulating and trying to get people to feel sorry for her. My sister in law told me about a situation where Mom needed to get her dress for the wedding fitted and wanted my sister in law to take her. Cindy told me that she took the day off work, ran around and got all her stuff done to be sure to get Mom over for her 3:30pm dress fitting. She said that she arrived at the house to pick Mom up and Mom was fixing some Mac & Cheese for my step daughter who was in town for the wedding. When she said to her mother that it was time to go, her mother said "I can go later, the time doesn't matter". Well, Cindy said that she thought she was going to kill her, but tried to roll with it. Then while riding over, my sister in law tried to discuss this with her, and my mother in law said, "well some people just need to stop thinking that everything is about them all the time". Well, we talked it though and about things that maybe she can do to try and help Mom, I am not sure whether or not she will truly follow up with these things or not, but I guess it was worth a shot.
Well, today my mother in law did the same thing to me, and quite honestly, it really frustrated me. Last night, we took my step daughter back to the hotel with us, and since she flys home today, and since my in laws were going to take her back to the airport, I asked them what time they needed to have her back. I was told that they would have to be leaving the house at 8:00am, so I shot to get her back to their house by 7:45am. Well, you know girls, my step daughter then informs me that she needs to straighten her hair in the morning so she needs an extra 20 minutes to do this. I wake up at 6:50am and get her up. She does her primping and we get back to my in laws house at 7:45am. When we arrive, my mother in law is just pulling on her robe like she is just getting out of bed and my father in law steps out of the bathroom with a shaving cream covered face. Now I didn't get to sleep until about 1am and I am exhausted. I say to my mother in law that she had better hurry up and get ready, and she tells me, "oh no, her flight out is not until about 11am so we don't have to leave here until about 9:30." Well, needless to say, I wanted to scream, as in my mind what she is truly saying is that I could have slept for another hour and a half at least, but instead, I peeled myself off the bed, just to be there about 2 hours before they really needed to leave. Then to add insult to injury, my husband had received some mail at her house and she handed it to me and asked me to give it to him. Upon looking at it, she already opened it. Well, that is an extra special treat. Thanks Mom!
Posted on Tuesday, June 10, 2008 10:39 PM by Carol Ann