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I guess I am one of those people who thought their parents would be married for ever. Well, my mother called me yesterday to tell me that her and my dad are going to try living separately for a while. I honestly was completely shocked. They are the type of couple that has always seemed a perfect fit and always on the same page about everything. Every holiday has been at their house, at their insistence. The whole family gathers and talks about the past, present and future. It is always a lot of fun to see everyone and catch up on all the latest happenings of the family members. Now, I guess that won't be for the future.

My mom said that they had been having marriage problems for a while and had even tried marriage counseling for a while, but really nothing was helping. If I were her I would do anything to save my marriage. They were either completely ignoring each other every day, or fighting like cats and dogs, she said either way it was unbearable. She said that she wasn't really sad anymore; she had just had this emptiness about her now.

She said that she was hoping that they could resolve their issues and move on, but she thinks now that divorce may possibly be the only answer. She wanted to tell the family in person, but felt that she had already waited too long to let us know that there was anything wrong. She said they were still going to try and go out to dinner together and on few dates and see how it goes. She is hoping that the separation will maybe be able to bring back that spark between them that has died out. My mom sounded so numb, I just kept trying to listen, the whole time complete bewildered by the things that she was telling me.

I love both my parents, but have a hard time envisioning them being apart. I mean they have always just gone together and my mind is having some difficulty holding on to the fact that mom and dad are not a package deal, but two individuals. I guess I am really glad that I didn't have to go through this when I was a kid. It is hard enough dealing with the news of your parents splitting up when you are grown and in a way it makes you feel like a little kid all over again.